The most traumatic experiences for any man are the idea of having to ask a father his daughter’s hand. In African culture before a man marries a woman, he has to first go and meet the ladies parent for the blessings, traditional rites and acceptance in order for them to plan the wedding date.
Any man will fear to face of a father- in- law.
At almost every wedding I have attended, when the time comes for the father in-law to make a speech, he will speak about how he didn’t know that the bridegroom was jumping over his fence to seduce his daughter in his absence. This always provoke a lot of laughter from the guests but the bride’s father actually means it, and probably wishes he would have shot the guy given a gun before he got very far and very close to his daughter.
Will he agree to give the daughter to the man?
As a society that is still pretty conservative, when someone talks about getting married, we imagine them getting into what most of us call “bad manners”.&
I imagine the feelings of parents looking at the guy who wants to or has already done “bad manners” to their daughter. This is what makes the prospect of meeting the parents-in -law traumatic.
It is an evident truth; at no prospective suitor can deny this, that no man is even good enough for a father even. It doesn’t matter if you are the Prince of Wales or if the guy works for you or even owes you money, you are still not good enough for his daughter.
It doesn’t matter if the girl is 30 and weighs 200pounds, she is still daddy’s little girl, and he wants to see the guy who has been messing with her.
Therefore most men decide to go with male friends to give him support and courage to face father in laws
However it ends perfect as planned.
Bye, Evelyn
